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[nerdflighter]

I've seen a lot of bad discourse lately, from people I generally respect and admire, about how misandry isn't a real thing and doesn't affect people's lives and so on. This is especially frustrating because we were speaking about a trans man, and I am just...so tired. And so depressed by the way feminism is so resistant to the idea that it can and does cause harm, and that the harm feminism causes in its own name is not justified no matter how, I don't know. Worthy our goals are. It makes me feel bad about calling myself a feminist (queerist, post-feminist). It makes me feel bad about everything. 

I have a tag for talking about the "privileges" trans men have. What I desperately need is validation and people - men and women and NBs - talking about their experiences with misandry. If you have links to such things, or would like to share your own, I would love to hear it. 

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[queermermaids]

oh gosh I feel that exhaustion, I'm sorry you gotta deal with it too :(

I've learned a lot of things about misandry from lurking on people's blogs, so here's some stuff I've found to be really helpful

hellofriendsiminthedark ’s tumblr has a really good tag that has some posts about maleness and masculinity, but mostly about the dichotomization of privilege and oppression which leads to the oppression of men to be pushed to the wayside

Another two page tag is theunitofcaring’s tag on misandry

multiheaded1793 has a really good tag to scroll through about men and the problems men face Its more than 2 pages lol, and her anger on the behalf of men is really significant to me very cathartic when the rest of the world just ignores men’s problems.

oh and here are two medium articles, one about cisnormative ideas of gendered oppression , and a last one about a trans woman who is staying closeted.

from me, I wrote this medium article which I really haven’t edited since I posted it about why trans men should have language to describe their oppression (ie: transmisandry) and the alienation caused by not having a language to describe one's experiences can lead to anger, radicalization, and weaponization of strife by radfems and TWERFS. The article is definitely a hot mess of bad, slightly offensive comparisons, but thats kinda what I feel as a partial man, just people not allowing me to have my own voice and the isolation that causes giving me an intense amount of envy (of just having words) and then guilt for feeling envy in the first place. I'm not even at the level where I can definitively say that misandry is a real thing, I'd rather read someone else say it instead because I've internalized the whole "ha ha misandry isn't real grow a pair and stop complaining" type shiz and its pretty hard to move on from.

That’s kinda all I got, ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I hope it was useful in some way :)