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[nerdflighter]

I've seen a lot of bad discourse lately, from people I generally respect and admire, about how misandry isn't a real thing and doesn't affect people's lives and so on. This is especially frustrating because we were speaking about a trans man, and I am just...so tired. And so depressed by the way feminism is so resistant to the idea that it can and does cause harm, and that the harm feminism causes in its own name is not justified no matter how, I don't know. Worthy our goals are. It makes me feel bad about calling myself a feminist (queerist, post-feminist). It makes me feel bad about everything. 

I have a tag for talking about the "privileges" trans men have. What I desperately need is validation and people - men and women and NBs - talking about their experiences with misandry. If you have links to such things, or would like to share your own, I would love to hear it. 

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[amberite]

I feel like maybe what you're running into is that the word "misandry" itself is almost entirely used as a dogwhistle by people who think misogyny isn't real, so it's hard to talk about the actual problem without running into people who've gotten sick to hell of the dogwhistle.

I think this relates to my discorks post from the other day about using the 'ageism' tag because it refers to the entire system of oppression.

The last ten years have seen a shift from talking about "sexism" to talking about "misogyny" that is a microcosm of a larger shift towards preferentially using microlabels for social problems.

And there were and are reasons why sometimes those microlabels are helpful, but the trend towards always using them whenever possible has, I think, reinforced fracturing and limited solidarity, because it ends up linguistically obscuring when a social problem is everyone's problem.

So one of my goals right now is to zoom out a bit. To speak inclusively, draw connections, relate parts to a whole, start comparing things to each other again.