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[nerdflighter]

lowkey thinking about how in a lot of D/s fic the Dom is rarely allowed to like...explicitly enjoy what's happening. it's always "oh they like doing this for their sub/friend/partner"...which is nice service tops represent and all of that but like. why isn't there more fic where the Dom is a straight-up sadist and it's fine. where the Dom genuinely enjoys fucking their sub up and it's fine. where it's about the Dom's pleasure as much as the sub's. why isn't that a perspective that is shown and explored because there's frankly so much potential there

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[sylvaine]

Yes this! I wonder if it's at least partially a matter of numbers - from what I've read, it's a known thing that there's more subs than doms.

[sciatrix]

Yeah, I actually just don't see many dom perspectives period? Which is a huge part of what usually makes me steer very clear of D/s, because spending time riding along in the head of a character in subspace is probably my most reliable anxiety trigger.

My therapist occasionally hints that I might like the aspect of kink shit that involves giving control and playing with trust issues, and I don't have the heart to explain that I apparently find giving control to someone else so incredibly terrifying that I can't access the fantasy of having exactly the thing I want but not having to be responsible for getting it. Responsibility is freedom.

WELLP THAT'S FUCKED UP cool cool thanks brain I'll show myself out now

[staranise]

FWIW, A Seditious Affair by KJ Charles is about a D/S relationship that has a moderate amount of dom!POV, and the dom definitely enjoys it, partly because he's a radical working-class activist and his sub is an aristocrat, so it's a good outlet for his "burn the rich" sensibilities.

[stardust_rifle]

ohmygodholyshityoujustputitintowords.